It seems I am back AGAIN.
The previous post is from October 2019, eh? A full 3 years then.. Of course a few things happened in all that time, but not so much on the modelmaking side of things.
I also started work on A-10, and of course didn’t finish it. Then I started work on a flight deck carrier, of course didn’t finish it. I also started work on a Messerschmitt BF-109 E3, but that one isn’t finished.
Yes, I absolutely do have a problem with perfectionism..
And it seems to make it impossible for me to enjoy this hobby for more than a month before I mess up a model and throw it in a box to return to a new model a while later. I start on that enthusiastically, then mess up and on we go for another cycle.
I’ve suffered from perfectionism for as long as I can remember. As a kid I would come home crying because I thought I just wasn’t doing good enough compared to other kids. As an adult, I finally found some rest in my work by taking anti-depressants which take a huge deal of the anxiety off. I’ve tried going without them in the last few years, and immediately the fear and insecurities come back: I am not doing enough, and it’s not good enough. Those insecurities are the reason I got a burn-out back in 2017, and the reason I started taking those meds back then.
So, those work for me on a professional level and I’m very happy to be able to function with them. I turned 37 last week, so there is still a while to go before I can professionally retire, and I simply can’t afford to question my own professional worth for another 30 years! Because rationally I do know I am good enough, and I know where my qualities lie and how I can use them effectively. It is just impossible to function when you are constantly second guessing yourself.
But although the meds seem to work for fine for the things that I have to do, like work. But not so much for the stuff that I want to do, like hobbies. In modelbuilding, that means I just stop as I describe above, and start a new kit after a while. In gaming, my other big hobby, I just keep buying new games so I can run away from the nagging feeling of perfectionism whenever the going gets tough when playing a game.
I am a man of solutions though, and I feel the best thing for me to do is get rid of the stash-of-doom with all those unfinished projects, and focus on a single project from that moment on and force myself to finish it. The first kit I placed in the stash-of-doom was the I-16 after the exhaust assembly didn’t go the way I planned it.
I see two options with that kit:
-Get the exhaust assembly right. Might be impossible since the tiny exhaust parts are likely to have gone missing after moving the box a few times.
-Make a diorama with it. I have another 1/32 I-16 lying around. It’s essentially the exact same kit, however rebranded by Revell. If I can get the both from the same squadron or at least of two squadrons who were historically based on the same airfield that might be a nice little project.
I have absolutely no idea how to go about making diorama’s though, so that would take some researching. But that’s half the fun, right?
First things first though: my workplace has become my office, and it’s a huge mess not fit for building anything.
Time to first clean up all that junk..
I always enjoyed writing, so it felt like a good idea to start up this blog again. That also takes a bit of cleaning up though, since after 5 years I see some dead links and incorrect categorization which I want to fix.
By the time my next blog comes around I should have sorted out the desk, and hopefully fixed the blog as well!
7 thoughts on “I don’t want to say I am back again, but..”
Hang in there. We all have been through all this in our search for the unattainable perfection.
Writing about it was also a way to reunite with my forgotten hobby in 2013 and finding virtual modeller friends sharing their thoughts about scale modelling.
Thank you! I hope staying active in writing and visiting blogs, discords and such will make it a bit more enjoyable probably. I could be silly here, but this can be a lonely hobby! There is so much to share though.
Keep on writing. It helps keeping our sanity in this crazy world.
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We have all been there…
Good to see you back, Dan and I look forward to more!
I have long abandoned the thought of writing on my blog, but I really enjoy reading them.
Take care amigo and keep writing!
Hey Brett, great to see you’re still around to read the blogside of things! You’re doing awesome with 4k+ YT followers so don’t change a thing I would say! I tried a bit of streaming on Twitch, but for me personally blogging will always work better.